Ask Me Anything

There have been lots of questions on the blog lately so I thought I would open this post up for you to Ask Me Anything.

I went back several posts and gathered some recent questions that have been asked…

How is Sweet Pea doing now?

How easy is it to use and put on the ring sling?

How exactly did you get that deal on the Britax B-ready stroller?

I will start with these. If you asked me something beyond a few posts ago, just ask again in this post and I will be sure to answer!

Don’t be shy…Ask Me Anything!!!

10 thoughts on “Ask Me Anything

  1. How do you meet other mom friends? I am a sahm and it’s so hard to find other moms to meet up with!

    How did you get the ring sling to work? I can’t figure out how to use it with my son’s feet popped out. Have you tried other baby carriers?

  2. I’m a relatively new reader, so I may have missed some things from past posts. I was wondering if it was a hard decision to go ahead with IUIs and IV (a long time ago now). We are currently trying to figure out the best option for us, and I don’t really know how I would feel about things not being successful if we go for either route. It seems like a big money investment with no guarantee of success. But if it works, it would be worth it!

  3. Also, if you have any thoughts on getting an 11 week old on a loose schedule, I’d love to know! :) My son is breastfed so his eating patterns will probably look different from a formula-fed baby. The one thing I want to avoid is crying it out (no judgment — it’s just not for us.) I am trying to figure out how to gently encourage a loose routine.

  4. Hi Elaine,

    I hope this doesn’t come across as creepy but I had just asked Morgan H the night before you posted this “Ask Me Anything” post about asking you some questions about adoption. Then I saw your post and felt it was an answer from God, so here goes.

    My dear friend had a baby 4 yrs ago at 22.5 wks gestation. He lived for 22 days and then went to be with Jesus. She had an awful infection after his birth but didn’t realize the extent of it until recently. With not getting pregnant again they finally went to see a specialist and were going to have a procedure done to unblock her fallopian tubes if they were blocked. When they went in though they found that the her uterus had healed stuck together after her infection. So the doctor unstuck her so to speak and then they did a follow up on her fallopian tubes only to find they are completely blocked with scar tissue from the infection and he said there is nothing he can do to help her along that route. She is quite devastated. They aren’t interested in trying the IVF but are interested in the possibility of adopting. They have no clue where to start or what options there are available. Through an individual rather than through the state is preferable if that is even a choice.

    So I know you may not be able to post the information all here since I am asking for specifics but could you email me at fuzzyheadedmomma (at) gmail (dot) com?

    I was hoping you could tell me:

    what the first step would be

    who they should contact

    things they would need possibly to begin a process

    information on fees and costs involved

    And any other tidbits you would be willing to share. My friend said she thought she read somewhere that our state has a law that an adoptive mother cannot be older than 45 at the time of the adoption and she just turned 41 so she is concerned that they may not have enough time. Any light you could shed on that matter would be great as well.

    Thank you SO much for your time and I greatly look forward to hearing your response!

    ~ Jenifer T.

  5. What type of bottles do you use? Did they both like the first type you tried? I bought the born free bottles and we are expecting our baby to come home October 14th through the miracle of adoption! We are nervous that maybe we should have other “brands” available. What is your experience? Thanks and God bless you on your journey!

  6. Hi Elaine,

    Here a lurker. I feel your love for God & people through the words on your blog. Thanks so much!

    My questions:
    1) We live in South Africa – but are Dutch, hence the not so perfect English… – and in January 2012 me and my husband will start being a Place of Safety for abandoned babies. We will take care of 1 or 2 babies at a time. They will be with us until they are adopted or placed in a foster family. The period each baby will be staying with us is around 6 months.

    I am wondering about attachment. Since it is only a 6 month period the children will be with us, should we do everything to help the baby attach to us, or should we stay a bit more ‘distant’ (as if that would be possible :-), but I think you understand what I mean? In other words, is the ability to attach something a baby learns and once he knows how to do it he will attach more easily to his forever parents, or should he only learn to really attach to his forever parents and not to us?

    A fact that makes it even more difficult, is that we hope to be able to adopt one or more of the babies who will come to our Place of Safety. But when the baby arrives at our house, we will have no idea if this child will go to fostercare or be adopted or go back to his parents. So how serious do we have to take attachment? Are there other things you can think of we should do or not do during the months the babies will be with us, not knowing if it is forever or not?

    2) I bought a few Miracle Blankets, just because you spoke so positively about them. However, since summers in South Africa can be really hot, I’m wondering if the blanket would not be too hot in summer.

    Thanks a lot.
    Rinette

  7. My question for you is about independent at time. My almost 2.5 and almost 1 yr old seem incapable of playing independently. How do you start it? Why were your techniques? What rule did you instill? How should I go about doing for a 1 yr old and. 2.5 year old? How should I do it different for each of them?

    Thanks!!!!

  8. When following Babywise, what do you do if the baby wakes up before the normal 2.5 to 3 hour feeding time in the middle of the night. When my little guy was a newborn, and all the way up to about 16 weeks, he would wake up every 45 minutes to 1.5 hours. I finally just let him cry and that worked but I was wondering what BW would say? Go in? Rock? Feed?

  9. Hi, Friend!

    I know God has a plan. I know He knows how and when our family will grow. I have zero doubt.

    I don’t have any desire to be pregnant.

    Yet… I am struggling with living in the “in between.” Again…total faith. But we will have to jump through hoops, have another home study (aka extreme personal invasion) and come up with a large sum of money. Each time we want another child.

    How do you (did you) deal with the overwhelming sadness that is the reality of family building through adoption? It is so hard and invasive and expensive. And again…no doubting of God, here, just sad it has to be so hard. Did it ever get to you? I found myself crying at babies r us on Sunday because it won’t be “easy” for us to have another baby. What did you tell yourself in those moments?

    Love your girls and your story and our God!!