Date with Mommy and Daddy

We told Little Bug when she filled up this Potty Chart with stickers from going potty on the big girl potty, we would take her on a date to her favorite frozen yogurt place.

We didn’t expect her to fill this chart up in less than two days of potty-training!

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In fact, on Tuesday I just kind of “forgot” about it because I knew if she filled it all in on Tuesday Dave wouldn’t be able to go with us because of work.

So we didn’t “remember” the chart until closer to the weekend and on Saturday Little Bug filled in the last box with a sticker and proudly proclaimed she could go to Mochi.

So Sunday after her nap, we went.

We took her to Panera first for dinner – which has always been a family favorite and somewhere we haven’t been as a family recently.

Here she is being a goofball as we try to get a picture of her before walking in to Panera.

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Sitting with her Daddy waiting for our food

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Mochi!!

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We had a fun date night with our big girl!

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And what a wonderful thing to be celebrating!!

Potty Training: One week in

I didn’t want to proclaim that Little Bug is truly completely potty-trained (daytime only) until I knew for sure, but Little Bug has been completely trained since last Monday morning!!

There have been virtually NO accidents!

One time, she said she needed to go potty, and took off running. But then, she decided she wanted to go to our bathroom instead of her bathroom. As she was trying to move her potty seat and stool to our bathroom she wet a little bit.

There have been NO times where she is playing and just forgets to go to the potty and pees on herself.

That really does surprise me, because I was totally prepared to have to clean up pee off the floor for a good while.

I still credit all this to the fact that I trained Little Bug when she was ready – not when I was ready to have her potty trained. Because, believe me, it would have been nice to have her out of diapers way sooner than at over 2.5 years old!!

Tuesday (day after initial training), she got up and wanted her panties on. I continued that day to say “Are your panties dry?” every so often. We went to my parents’ house on that day which meant a car ride. Instead of letting her drink milk before we got in the car (like I usually do), I had her wait until we got to their house. I was thinking that she may not have accidents in the house, but surely when I put her in the car for a car ride, she will. But, she did not!

Wednesday and Thursday I continued to say “Are your panties dry?” every so often. And she continued to go to the potty every time she needed to go.

Friday I hardly said “Are your panties dry?” and she continued to use the potty every time. Dave’s parents even took her to the neighborhood park for about half an hour and she stayed dry the entire time!

Now, a week later, I don’t even need to say “Are your panties dry?”. If she needs to go, she goes to the potty on her own!

There was a time when she needed help getting on the potty. She didn’t actually really need help but on the training day she somewhat slipped on her little potty seat and then from then on, she wanted assistance in sitting down on the potty. But now she will independently go on her own and she doesn’t even want to use the little potty seat on the big potty anymore!

She did fabulous at church too on Sunday! No accidents.

My girl is potty trained. It is still hard to believe how easy the training process really was.

I really do believe that we as parents make a bigger deal of training than we should!!

Having just trained a child these are my top three tips:

1. Wait until your child is totally ready to do this. Don’t force your child to train! If potty training becomes something you want to do and not something you and your child wants to do, you are only asking for accidents and frustration! Put quite simply: Don’t stress about potty training!

2. The one-day method philosophy is so smart! Instead of training by making your kid go sit on the potty, use the philosophy from that book and instead ask your child if their panties are dry. That way you are putting the focus on the main goal (keeping pants dry/clean) instead of having to constantly take your child to the potty so they won’t have accidents. You are putting the responsibility on the child and they will want to go on their own to keep their pants dry and clean without you having to constantly remind them to “go use the potty”!

3. Don’t even start with the little toddler potty seat. This is totally my opinion, but to me, they are GROSS. Little Bug trained on the big potty and I am so glad because I am not worried at all of her being afraid of going on the potty in public bathrooms when we are out and about. (Although I am afraid of the GERMS that she will come into contact with in using those public potties!! Yuck!!) **Update: She has successfully used the public toilets with no problems. I tried getting her to use this paper to cover the seat but it didn’t really stay on the toilet well so she just sits on the public potty seat now like a big girl. Ewww. I just try not to think about it and wash her hands immediately upon getting up. Oh well. Smile

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My Big Girl!

Potty-training: How Little Bug was trained in less than a day!!

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It happened.

Yesterday!

Little Bug is potty-trained!!!!

I was not planning to train her on January 16th, however the night before, Little Bug told her Daddy she wanted to wear panties while they were out on a date to the grocery store.

When they got back and Little Bug was insisting I needed to find her panties and let her wear them, I knew the time had come.

Ready or not…it was time to potty train Little Bug!

And, I wasn’t ready because I had NOT finished reading this book:

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A lot of my friends have kids that are older than mine. Several of them have used this method with GREAT success. One friend recently gave me a copy. I started reading but stopped because Dave and I thought it would be best to get through January before trying to train her.

Little Bug had other plans.

We let her put the panties on because she was so insistent that she had to start wearing them NOW!

Panties on and with a timer going off every five minutes, she had several successes of going pee pee in the potty and…two accidents. I knew this wasn’t the method from the book and I was hoping I wasn’t ruining things for actual training by the method of the book by doing things this way for now!

After the girls were in bed my parents brought the pee doll from their house (it was mine growing up).

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Then they went with me to Wal Mart so I could get my potty training supplies!

Treats for going in the potty

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A salty snack with a new drinking cup

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Panties

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Potty Seat with a step stool

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Potty Chart (this isn’t on the book’s supply list, but I thought it would be a good idea to have this chart for her to put stickers on when she goes in the potty and then when the chart is full we will take her to her favorite frozen yogurt place!)

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I got every thing set up in my bathroom. I decided to train her in the master bathroom because it has more space than Little Bug’s bathroom and we were going to be spending alllllll morning in there!

Then, I went to bed and stayed up until 1am reading the rest of the book and taking notes! The book is very specific on what you say and do, so taking notes came in very handy! (My friends warned me I would want to take notes.)

The next morning (16th) we got up and one of the first things Little Bug said was, “Mommy I want to wear panties!”. I told her I had a very special morning planned for us. I said she was going to be able to put her panties on after breakfast and then we were going to go into Mommy’s bathroom to learn and practice going pee pee in the potty.

She was VERY excited. She didn’t really even want to eat breakfast, which is very unlike Little Bug. Girl loves her food.

We finished breakfast and headed to the bathroom, where Daddy was getting ready for work. Dave was trying to get her to say goodbye to him, like she normally does every morning, but this girl was ripping her diaper off and heading for the potty!!

Ready or not, I knew there was no turning back now! And I felt ready too after my crash course on potty training the night before!

There are basically two parts of training in this method: Learning by Imitation and Dry Pants Inspections with Prompted Potty Trials. And then, when there are accidents, there are four procedures to follow.

It is A LOT of information, but taking notes did help me to get it sorted in my head. I just wish I had not had to do a last minute, stay up late, cram session to learn it all!! (I was always the type that would study for tests days before, not the night before. Smile)

We started at 9:30 am.

First, you go through the whole “potty process” with a doll that pees. The purpose of this is to teach the child the potty process. Since Little Bug has been using the potty off and on since she turned two in May, she didn’t really need this part of the training process, but I did it anyway. She had fun seeing the doll pee and checking to make sure the doll’s panties were dry.

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So for this phase, you teach the potty process by having the doll pee in the potty. Then, you make doll have an accident. You say, “No Dolly! Big girls don’t wet their pants.” Then you help the doll practice going pee pee in the potty and end the imitation phase by having the doll pee in the potty like a big girl.

Next is the Dry Pants Inspections with Prompted Potty Trials (PPT). This is when you start training your child. Also, while training the doll, you give your child LOTS to drink and snacks that make her thirsty (so she will drink more and need to pee!). With a full bladder, Little Bug was ready for her first Prompted Potty Trial.

This is where you teach your child to perform the potty process, from start to finish. You do Prompted Potty Trials every 15 minutes at first.

For the first two or three Prompted Potty Trials you say, “Little Bug, go to the potty.” So, you essentially start by telling the child to go to the potty with the goal of her going on her own at the end of training because she wants to “keep her panties dry and clean”.

We did this about twice (where I verbally told her to go to the potty). Between the first and second time, she RAN out of the bathroom and I knew it was because she had to poop. That is what she has been doing recently…running off and for a couple minutes things are abnormally quiet until someone comes out of hiding and announces, “I went poo poo!” I immediately ran after her and told her to go to the potty. She went…and pooped!

In between these Prompted Potty Trials you are seriously ONLY talking about going to the potty with your child!!! It is VERY taxing! For about half an hour ALL I said was….

Little Bug, are your panties dry? (She would feel her panties – a dry pants inspection – and then she would get a treat for having dry panties. You are to ask this about every 3-5 minutes at the very beginning of training.)

Does Mommy have dry panties? Who else do you know that has dry panties? (Then she would name her friends that have dry panties. And family members and anyone she could think of!)

You are such a big girl for having dry panties!

All this potty talk was repeated OVER AND OVER AND OVER again. If she started talking about ANYTHING other than potty training matters, I was to change the subject back to potty-training!

After two Prompted Potty Trials, I started saying, “Little Bug, do you need to potty?” instead of telling her to go (see? we are moving towards her taking over the process completely instead of being told to go potty.)

She would either say yes or no. We continued only talking about potty matters!

Somewhere in here, she had an accident. I believe it was actually right after she pooped. She pooped and then got down and then a few minutes later she peed, but it was hardly a puddle on the floor and more like a drizzle that she stopped midstream!

Immediately I referred to my notes Smile and did the Accident Procedures. First you show Verbal Disappointment by saying, “No! You wet your pants. Wetting is yucky!!” Then you do Positive Practice where you take them TEN TIMES in a row to the potty to practice what you are suppose to do when you need to go potty. You say, “Little Bug wet her panties. Little Bug has to practice going on the potty! Practice going to the potty. Practice quickly.” You have them rapidly walk to the potty to practice the potty procedures. (I ended up stopping this after about 4-5 times, instead of doing it 10 times.)

After the Positive Practice you do Wet Pant Awareness, which means you have child do 10 wet-pants inspections so they feel their wet pants and understand the difference between dry and wet. I actually didn’t do this “right” and realized afterwards…oops! I had her change right away after the accident (actually she changed right away because she wanted those wet panties off!). She did NOT even want to touch the wet panties AT ALL!

Then you have them clean up their mess. She got the paper towels and wiped her legs and then the little bit that had made it to the floor.

That was the only accident Little Bug had that morning! After going through the Accident Procedure, we went right back to the every 15 minutes or so Prompted Potty Trials, asking her every 5ish minutes if she had dry panties, giving her a treat if she was dry and giving her LOTS of fluids.

I started saying “Little Bug show me where you go potty!” which was one step closer to her doing this all on her own accord. Eventually, all you say is, “Are your panties dry?” because that is the goal – to have dry and clean panties!

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She was filling up her Potty Chart!!

(I would let her put a sticker on every time she peed or pooped in the potty.)

THEN…

ON HER OWN

SHE SAID…

“Mommy, I need to go potty!!!!!”

The book said you can consider your child trained when she walks to the potty for the first time without a reminder and completes the process without help!

45 minutes and she was there!!!!!!

I could hardly believe it! It made me want to go ahead and train Sweet Pea!! (Just kidding.)

Once she hit that point, the book said I could slack off on the potty talk and we could do an activity that didn’t have to do with training.

I had gathered books beforehand (hoping we would reach this point!) so we read books on the bathroom floor!

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Still pumping her with fluids, she would stop me in the middle of reading a book and say those glorious 6 words…”Mommy, I have to go potty!!!”

So, after that I decided we could venture out of the bathroom. I had gathered some activities for us to do in my bedroom.

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She wrote on her Magnadoodle and continued to stop and run to the potty every time she needed to go!!!!!

We had lunch and then it was naptime. I told her she would still wear a diaper for naptime, which she wasn’t too happy about at first. Once she understood she would only have to wear a diaper for naptime and bedtime she was okay with the idea.

She took her nap, woke up and got right back in her panties and continued to run to the potty every single time she needed to go for the remainder of the day!!!!

Today she woke up and wanted to get right back into her big girl panties. We didn’t do Independent Playtime in her room yesterday but we did today and I was a little concerned that she would have accidents in there but she did not!!

I think this went so well for several reasons:

1. I waited until SHE was ready. And boy was she ready. There was no stopping this girl from wearing her panties! I totally agree with my pedi that potty training is something that has to be done on the child’s time table and not the parent’s. I am SO glad I didn’t stress about getting Little Bug trained because she turned two or because a new baby was on the way. Waiting was the best thing for her and our family.

2. This method is AWESOME. I think this method worked because it is focused on what the real goal is – the child keeping her panties dry and clean – instead of the parent having to bribe the child or force the child to try and use the potty. This method teaches them to do it all on their own will because they want to keep their panties dry and clean!

3. I have an awesome kid. Smile

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I planned to do the training during Sweet Pea’s morning nap because you are suppose to train with absolutely NO distractions. Well, of course this little stinker wakes up early from her nap…hungry. I gave her the paci hoping that would hold her off. It did and then the chunky monkey ate SIX OUNCES. She has never eaten that much in her life AND she isn’t supposed to go over four ounces per her GI’s recommendations! (Although her normal feeds have recently increased to 5 ounces. That post is coming soon.)

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I asked her to smile pretty and let me take a picture of her so we can remember this day and the above is what I got.

Her little booty in big girl panties is so adorable. Smile

I am SO PROUD of my BIG GIRL!!!

Potty Training…

… wasn’t on my agenda for this week, but apparently it is for Little Bug!

 Yesterday, on the day she turned 22 months old, Little Bug pooped in the potty for the first time!

For months now, when I go to pick up Little Bug from the church nursery, I have been told:

Little Bug is ready to be potty trained!

Little Bug said, “Change diaper.” after she pooped.

I’ve sorta felt like she is “ready” for a while now, but I haven’t done anything about it because I wanted to be sure she is ready because I don’t want to start, realize she is not ready and then have to go back to diapers.

While I know that most kids probably do go through that cycle of diapers, to panties to diapers again, I really want to potty train when I know she is really ready so we can say goodbye to diapers and never look back. (Not that there won’t be accidents. I know there will be.)

The problem is that I haven’t really known if Little Bug is really ready. (Although every single church nursery worker seems to think she is!)

So, tonight, we got home from a birthday party and Little Bug was eating her dinner and pee-pee, poo poo and panties seemed to be the topic of discussion at the dinner table.

I decided months ago that I would take Little Bug’s lead. For a couple months now, if Little Bug has poop in her diaper she will tell me she needs to be changed because she doesn’t like it when her diaper has poop.

When I went to put her in the chair for dinner last night she complained about the diaper being wet. That was a first! So I took it as my clue to ask her if she wanted to wear panties so she wouldn’t have to sit in wet.

She wanted to put panties on so we got out of the chair and went to her room to put on some training panties!

I made a huge deal about how they were dry and clean and she could keep them that way by peeing and pooping in the potty.

Then we went back to the dinner table.

And five seconds after she was all strapped into the seat, she said, “Little Bug poo poo in potty!”

So off we went to the bathroom.

She tried, but nothing happened.

Back to the dinner table.

And about 10 minutes later, she said she wanted to go to the potty again. Off we went and this time, she pooped!!!

I wish I had it on camera. (I know that is probably a weird thing to say.)

Her little eyes were as big as saucers and after she went she couldn’t get off that potty fast enough to see.

Little Bug see poo poo in potty!

We marveled at her poop in the potty and then hollered for Daddy to come join the party.

And I yelled, “And bring the camera!!”

To which my hubby said, “Are you going to take a picture of her poop??”

He was relieved when I said, “No, just of her sitting on the potty for the first time she actually pooped on it!”

(He knows that Little Bug’s life is practically documented moment by moment by pictures and I guess he wouldn’t put it past me to take a picture of her first poop in the potty. But, I am not that ridiculous! Surprise, surprise!)

After dinner we had a pee accident.

And then not long after that Little Bug said “poop on the potty”. Dave and I didn’t take the girl seriously since she had just gone (unfortunately) and she had a little poop accident.

Lesson learned: If she says she has to go, take her, even if she just went 10 minutes before!

So….I’m going with this potty training thing, I suppose.

We are off to buy a little potty seat for the big potty seat (so she can sit and not feel like she is about to fall in) and some more panties.

We only have 4 pair. We used three pair in about an hours time, I think it was.

I think we are going to need more than four.

I guess it is time to reread PottyWise.

I have no clue what I am doing, but here goes…

*And here are my thoughts this morning*

I hope I won’t regret this, but I just feel in my gut now is not the time to do this!

Like I said, I want to do it and be done with diapers. None of this going back and forth. I want to put her in panties and deal with the accidents and training until it clicks and she finally gets it and diapers are history.

That kind of training takes some planning. Planning to not do anything for a couple days or so and this week is packed with plans!

Then, the next week we are flying to Texas. Like I said, I don’t want to go back to diapers once we start training and I think I would be insane to get on an airplane with my 22 month old in panties for a flight half way across the continent. That would be a recipe for disaster. It is already going to be an adventure keeping her sitting still on my lap for 2 hours! I don’t want to add pee and poop on my lap, too.

So…I’ve just decided to postpone the panty/potty seat trip to the store and start the training when we get back from Texas.

Hopefully, I am not missing my “window of opportunity” of training her with ease…if there is such a thing! Smile